Every New Year's Day we make a list of resolutions to be a better version of ourselves. I have a problem with the word "be". As much as we want to be that person, we will never be able to wake up on the first of January and keep all our resolutions for the rest of the year. After all we're human and no robots. We will not be able to be perfect every single day.
You cannot control everything, no matter how many resolutions you make. Life is unpredictable and there will always be ups and downs. Even the most successful people in the world have down days where they just eat junkfood in bed.
Because I'm chronically ill. I've learned to shift and adjust my dreams due to my health issues. No matter how much I may want something, some things are just not possible because of my chronic illnesses. So I prefer to look at resolutions differently.
Not being but becoming
I don't think there is such a thing as a switch we can turn on once the clock strikes midnight to realize our resolutions. We need to work steadily on ourselves to become that person we wish to be.
You want to create a new habit but it'll require a lot of work, time and effort. In order to change something that you're so used doing, you're gonna need to take many steps to get there.
Many people give up their resolutions after a month. You can prevent that from happening if you don't put that much pressure on yourself. I'm a huge believer in doing what you love and in chasing your dreams. But when you have a poor health, you need to remember you have a lot more to consider and think about. While healthy people can book a spontaneous trip, you may need to do a lot of research on accessibility and assistance.
Instagram influencers make it seem, once they worked hard to hit a goal, every other day after is an easy-peasy.
Reality teaches us that no matter how hard you try and believe in yourself, it's impossible to keep your resolution. While this is something everyone deals with, it's more likely going to happen with chronic illness.
Having an off day is normal but when you have chronic pain and fatigue there will be more off days than you want. Your upset feelings are more than normal but it's important we don't allow any guilt.
We fight every single day but some days, our bodies will be broken. It's your job to focus on recovering. In fact, why don't you make that one of your resolutions?
Goals can be adjusted
A resolution can be put into vague words. That's why it's difficult to fulfill it and you will never feel satisfied. You will beat yourself up for not keeping it, while in reality you took so many big steps to get closer to reach it.
Another thing we tend to do is make way to many resolutions at once. Split your resolution into small goals or start focusing on one bad habit instead of trying to change a whole lifestyle.
One of my favorite quotes is: "Celebrate Every Tiny Victory" and that is exactly what you should do.
Know that a goal can be shifted to how you're feeling that day. There are many ways we can still do so many things without damaging our health.
I truly hope you will have a beautiful new year.